May 7, 2021
Did you know that equanimous is a word? I didn’t. Not until maybe 6 months ago. I forget exactly when it was but I think it was after the presidential election. A friend said she was trying to channel equanimity. And everyone else in our little group seemed to know exactly what she meant. Because they agreed they wanted that too. I had to look it up.
So the adjective version of equanimity is equanimous. Something that I still don’t know really how to say out loud. Like…where am I supposed to put the emphasis? Is it equANimous? Or equanIMous?
Somebody help me!
But anyway, the point is that I just totally LOVE this word. It represents exactly what I strive for when I’m under stress. Whether it is healthy stress or toxic stress. Not that I have toxic stress very often in my life, thank goodness.
Like when I’m gearing up to launch my coaching program. The time of enrolling and all the consults while also taking time to write these posts everyday and coaching the people I’m already committed to and also working my doctor job and parenting and being a wife and a contributing household member and a daughter and sister and friend.
Or like when there is chaos and uncertainty in the world and violence and hate.
However, feeling equanimous is NOT how I want to feel all the time. I don’t want to feel that way with my patients in most settings. And I don’t want to feel that way with my family or friends most of the time. I’d rather feel engaged, connected, excited, joyful, loving, compassion, generosity.
So just like that song by Peter Paul and Mary (which I learned later is a Bible verse)…to everything (turn, turn, turn) there is a season (turn, turn, turn).
We don’t stay in any given emotion forever. Which is good right? But it is nice to have access to feelings that give us what we need in any given moment to create the outcome we want for ourselves.
What feeling do you choose right now?